two body problem with non-academic spouses

[twofer]

Does anyone have any resources/suggestions with regards to the so called two body problem when the spouse is non-academic, but in a specialized field?

I ask because I am in that situation, and I have had to turn down offers that would otherwise be pretty decent if not for the fact my spouse would have a hard time getting a career going there, and the offers never seem to give enough time to try to figure it out before demanding an answer.

[runner]

the offering institution didn't give any official or unofficial help with placing your spouse? at mine, there is pretty intense networking to help spouses transition.

[twofer]

No, at least not before demanding an answer to the offer. It was pretty much an exploding offer without any concessions.

[runner]

[twofer]

On top of it all, my spouse has a pretty great job at a pretty great location. I feel incredibly guilty to give that up, especially for an uncertain situation.